Men

Is it normal that when I have sex with my boyfriend he takes like forever to come? Is it normal? Once he didn't even come, and when he takes too long he starts to masturbate but really rough so I want to know how I can help him.

There are a variety of reasons why it may take your boyfriend forever to come.  Some possibilities are medical conditions, medications, anxiety, drug use.  It is recommended the he make an appointment with his primary care provider or schedule an appointment at the Corner Health Center.  He may feel embarrassed talking about it but it sounds like it is important and health care providers are here to help. 

Four weeks ago, I received unprotected oral sex from a woman I had never met until that day at a party. I was really drunk and only recall that happening. I am married and really regret what I did, not that it matters at this point. It lasted only about a minute or two and I did not ejaculate. I freaked out and took 1.5 grams of Zithromax in one dose about 4 days after exposure and received a one gram shot of ceftriaxone 6 days after exposure. I never had testing done as I have been unable to because of a work trip and had to work a deal to get the meds. Symptoms I am having are: -Pain and burning in groin. (Mainly on the left side directly up and left of my penis. It is tender to touch if I dig around in there trying to locate the spot. I feel nodes on both sides but they are small and I have to search for them. I can't tell if that's hat hurts.) -Cold and tender thighs. -Testicular discomfort. -The occasional urgency to urinate. -Sometimes the tip of my penis tingles? But I think I have felt it before the encounter. -My bladder seems hot? Subsided after urination completely. I do NOT have burning during urination or discharge. I feel like everything between my knees and groin hurt, and can't tell if it's anxiety. I have been married for more than a decade and the thought of my terrible judgement jeapordizing that is killing me inside. I have masturbated a few times just to see that everything comes out normal and it does. I also have tenderness and soreness in the ligaments. It feels like it goes all around where my leg meets my pelvis and feels like it goes around to my buttocks occasionally. I also feel a weird fluttering like sensation of the muscles in my groin area every now and then. I feel that I am able to suppress these symptoms mentally and they come back. I feel that I can sleep fine and the symptoms manifest throughout the day and go away near bedtime. Please help.

You have been treated for the most common sexually transmitted infections.  It is unlikely that you have gotten a different infection from oral sex that is causing all of these symptoms. 

You need to schedule an appointment with a health care provider who can do an examination and get any necessary tests. 

It also sounds like you are experiencing a lot of anxiety and it would be helpful if you could talk to a therapist as well. 

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